While the stigma around seeking therapy is slowly ebbing away in our society, the stigma around getting help for your marriage is stronger than ever.
Why seek help if things are “good enough?"
We know each other’s particularities and which buttons not to push–why mess with that?
Even worse, why would we let anyone peer behind the curtain and tell us there are things we could improve in our marriage?
Worse yet–why would we announce to the world we need help by publicly attending a mArrIaGE SeMinAr?
Well, here’s the good news:
Marriage seminars are NOT for couples who are struggling to stay together.
They are NOT for couples who are on the brink of divorce.
They are NOT for couples who are experiencing serious sexual issues, have untreated addictions, or are not wanting to improve their marriage.
Okay, so who are marriage seminars for?
Marriage seminars are for couples who want to level up their relationship.
Marriage seminars are a great opportunity for couples to check in with each other and gauge their relationship together.
They’re a way to safely assess growth areas in your relationship.
These seminars can highlight new ways to bring you closer together, deepen your connection with each other, and better understand each other.
Who wouldn’t want that?
Marriage seminars are for couples who want to learn new communication skills.
Maybe I’m wrong, but I’m pretty sure every person in any kind of relationship has felt misunderstood at some point.
Marriage seminars are the perfect place to learn how to tell your side of the story in a way your partner can understand it.
And they’re the perfect place to practice these new skills with the help of trained professionals.
If it doesn't work for you, there's no harm.
At least you tried something new together!
Marriage seminars are for couples going through normal life transitions.
If there is a change in the family, adaptability is imperative to remain functional.
In other words, change can bring chaos.
And chaos can bring communication breakdowns, disappointment, and big feelings.
Marriage seminars help couples develop flexibility.
They help couples find new ways to connect, calm the chaos, and regulate the family.
Changes in the family might mean a new birth, a job change, moving, death of an important family member, or any number of typical life transitions.
Basically, anytime is a good time to go to a marriage seminar.
I want to reiterate that marriage seminars are not for couples who are seriously struggling. These couples would be better suited for couples counseling with a licensed therapist.
Marriage seminars are not a substitute for counseling. They are meant to enhance the relationship, not fix it.
Attending a marriage seminar does not mean you are failing at marriage. It means you are committed to lifelong learning, improvement, and connection with your spouse.
Ready to go to a marriage seminar?
We’d love to see you at our next Created for Connection event. Register here.
If you think you and your partner need more than a marriage seminar, I’d love to help you determine if couples counseling is right for you. Email cassidy@counselorcass.com or text 417-893-0761.
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