Something needs to change. You’ve sought advice from the internet, friends, and family–to no avail. Nothing is working. You’re stuck.
What now?
Use these steps to navigate getting help for your problems.
1. Admit you need help (or that there is an issue).
If you’re reading this, you can probably check this one off the list.
We’ve all had that friend who’s in denial. Nothing you say seems to make an impact. The only way they can appropriately deal with their situation is to choose to seek help.
To seek help, you have to know you need help.
Personally, asking for help has always been difficult for me. Ask my dates from several years ago–I wouldn’t even let them open the car door for me. Thankfully, I have people in my life who know me well enough to help me even when I won’t ask for it. The best gift I can give to myself is to be honest about how I’m really doing.
Ask yourself: How am I? Where am I struggling? Do I need help? If the answer is yes, move to step 2.
2. Determine who can help you.
If you’re reading this, it’s probably time to consider seeing a counselor. However, if you haven’t explored getting help from yourself or others, now is the time.
I recently celebrated a dear friend’s bachelorette weekend. The morning before the wedding, I felt a bit anxious. I made a cup of coffee and went outside. I focused on the serene grounds before me in the calm of the morning. I sipped my coffee and prayed. After a few moments, I returned inside, refreshed and ready to face the day.
You have incredible resources within yourself. By getting out of bed each morning, you’re already using these resources. Sometimes, taking a day off to pursue your hobbies or walk in nature might be all you need to soothe your anxieties.
Is your self-soothing not working? Phoning a friend or family member might give you the calmness you seek. Their perspective on your situation could be just what you need.
However, if you’ve exhausted these resources, it’s time to see a professional.
3. Get the help you need.
If you’re reading this, you were probably ready for this step already.
If you’ve determined you can help yourself, do it! Schedule the day off, read your favorite book, or tend to your plants. If you’re unsure where to start, stay tuned for my blog post regarding beginner self-care practices.
If you believe a friend or family member can help, send them a text–right now. Tell them you'd like to talk about something important. Put it on the schedule, whether it’s a phone call or a coffee meet-up.
If you’re ready to see a counselor, make an appointment.
It takes some effort to research and find the right person, but it’s worth your time. You deserve help, and it’s time to ask for it.
Click here to learn how to find the right counselor for you.
Asking for help can be scary, but we all need it. Following these three steps can guide you through any obstacle you face.
If you desire to see a counselor but are struggling to find someone, send me a message. I can help.
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